The unwanted being alone after the loss of a loved one reveals one of the last taboo topics in our society.
Many grieving people experience the impotence, helplessness and speechlessness of their surroundings and suffer from social isolation. The lack of others, being thrown back in the farewell time makes grief and finding one’s way back to life more difficult.
The complaining women in the Balkans show us that completely different conventions are possible: farewells are lived through together, suffering is experienced together. This results in a conscious, self-determined way of dealing with grief, which can give us back control over these powerful feelings.
In this book Ulrike Reimann traces the wailing women, these “hosts of mourning”. With a lot of empathy and respect, she succeeds in gaining insight into this culture of community mourning that is unknown to us. The findings lead to a vision of “grief laboratories”: rooms in which to say goodbye as well as a confident and self-determined way of dealing with death and loss can be practiced and learned.
The book was published in May 2016
Paperback, 180 pages